Monday, March 22, 2010

My Umbrella

The graphic above comes from having a Morning Cuppas With Glenys down in Australia. I have not read the source book, “You Can Be The Wife Of A Happy Husband” by Darian B Cooper, but I have read the Bible and do understand the illustration.

Incorrect readings of the following scriptures lead people to think of wives as being broken spirits under the yoke of an overbearing husband, and that is far from God’s truth. Some read it as a husband having complete control over everything a wife does and subjects her to physical discipline. Again, so very far from truth. While I do not deny some have perverted the message to their own failings, the truth of God’s plan offers freedom, equality and shared inheritance.

Here are the verses, two written by Paul, the other by Peter:

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. (Ephesians 5:22-23 KJV)

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. (Colossians 3:18 KJV)

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. (1 Peter 3:1-2 KJV)

In following these verses we Christian wives really do what we please, and what we please is to do God’s will. We have joyfully accepted the responsibility to do so, and are blessed by it.

A husband’s responsibility is greater. In addition to doing God’s will, he is to protect and love his wife with the same care and fervor that Christ has shown for His church.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. (Ephesians 5:25-28 KJV)

The first umbrella that protects me is my Beloved Husband – very soon he will have been doing so for forty-nine years, through four generations. That’s a lot of responsibility and I appreciate what he has given.

Peter recognizes that women are (for the most part) physically weaker than men.
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1 Peter 3:7 KJV)

There are specific physical differences in order to complete specific responsibilities. And that’s just fine with me. We are most vulnerable in child bearing, when a loving husband is truly needed at our side. And, in child rearing as a family is beset by outside influences as we raise our children to come to know and love God in spite of our failings. This does not preclude a professional life – the Bible has many examples of professional women. There is balance.

As my Beloved Husband does, wives are to be honored and treated as an equal heir together of the grace of life.


  1. Love this post. So many mistake the submission as permission to abuse or be abused. But God who we submit to blesses us in this position. :)

  2. Another beautiful post Grammy. Those very verses changed my life years ago, giving meaning to my marriage and my life as a woman as well. I love them dearly. I was never a passive woman. I had a mouth and used it often even when it went against my husband so when I began changing people who knew me were shocked and very confused. They knew I wouldn't stand for being abused or controlled but they couldn't help but notice the difference. Those verses along with my husbands strength and determination made my marriage what it is today. :)


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